The
Good, the Bad and the Ugly
by
Jennifer Hoffman
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The path of
relationship represents our connections in the third dimension. While we may describe them as good or bad, they are no more
than energetic intersections of karma and healing. We can glamorize relationships to be the wonderful stuff of romance novels
or the tribulations that we experience as part of the path of seeking love but they are both all of this and none of this
because they are simply energetic connections. From the family we chose to be born into to the partners, friends, neighbors
and lovers we choose to share our life path with, it's only energy whose flow has a purpose, to bring us closer to wholeness
within ourselves.
Why do we choose
'bad' relationships, the ones that hurt, disappoint, betray and confuse us? Because they represent our most powerful path
to emotional healing. If we can forgive those who hurt us most, then we can also forgive ourselves and gain release
from the need to cause ourselves pain. Why do we choose 'good' relationships, the ones that feed our soul, bring us joy and
make us feel amazing? Because we have discovered the secret to life, that we can choose whatever we want and while a choice
for pain or love is available to us, it is only when we are aware that pain is optional that we can choose a pain-free path
to healing.
We look at
people who are in terrible relationships, those in which they are abused, betrayed or hurt and wonder what they are thinking.
But they probably look at our choices in the same way because unless we are on a path and its experiences and healing are
relevant to us, we can never understand its purpose, which is why we can't judge others. And even judging our relationships,
especially when we put the blame on someone else, does not lead to our healing because that person or people or situation
has a place in our life through our invitation. When we feel they have worn out their welcome, we can be complete with that
lesson and release them and the need for that kind of relationship-that energy is no longer part of our dynamic.
It is easy
to say 'I want love in my life' and then wonder why the Universe sends us such terrible partners. But the Universe responds
to all of our needs for learning, healing, growth and transformation and brings the connections that will enable that to occur.
We receive to the extent of our energetic vibration and like attracts like. The soul is here for healing, in whatever form
that takes. So the ugly is just as powerful and healing as the good and often more so, because until we release our need to
heal through pain, we will attract the most painful option to speed the healing process. Eventually, we will have enough awareness
and love ourselves enough to choose the path of unconditional love and when we do, we will have relationships that bring us
the joy and fulfillment that we are ready for on an ego level and that our soul has been longing to help us create.
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