Play Fair With Yourself ! |
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Look, I have told you to stop finding fault with yourself. Why,
then, do you continue faulting yourself? In terms of the relative world and its expectations, in terms of your own expectations,
you will never be perfect. There will be a slip-up somewhere. There will be a gap in your performance. Your pirouette will
not suffice. Your legs will be not be the perfection you would like. You will make typos on the computer. You will forget
something. Your worst imperfection is how you find fault with yourself.
Let's face it. You may never run out of faults to find. I suggest
you stop finding fault now, this minute. Let yourself off the hook. Just as I suggest that you focus on the blessings the world
gives, I suggest that you focus on the blessing that you are. The odds are that as soon as you would become 100% perfect,
you would then aim for 150% perfect, and you would be off to the races again. Perfection is not to be a goal in your life. Do the best you can always. Two minutes later you may see a
better route. Well, then, take that route the next time. Stay off the graveled path that costs you remorse. Give yourself
a break from unachieved perfection. Play fair with yourself. Okay, so you took your eye off the ball. You didn't hit a home
run today. It's okay. Think of yourself neither as perfect nor imperfect. You want
to improve your record, and I tell you to be content with a passing grade. In My book, you are A+. You are living a life in
flux. In some places, the river widens. In some places, the river narrows. In some places you leap like a fish. In some places,
you flounder, or you make a belly-flop. It's not the first time. What is the big deal? Take pressure off yourself, and rest your fault-finding self.
Better yet, get rid of fault-finding altogether. Finding fault is clearly living in the past. You know better. Sometimes you have to write off your errors. Turn over a new
leaf. Start a new page. You went to the super market. You bought many things. When you
unpacked your groceries, you found that you forgot the one thing you had to get. And now the store is closed. Find a way to
make do. Go next door to borrow some sugar. Now you have an opportunity to be neighborly, and now you use this opportunity.
You must not put yourself in debt to yourself. You owe yourself
a reprieve, not a bill. You do not have to atone. It is not new that you are a human being who forgets things, or drops things,
says the wrong thing, doesn't say the right thing. It's okay. There is nothing to forgive yourself for except that you are
a human being. Is that what you can't forgive yourself for? Forgive yourself ahead of time. Condone the fact that you are
not error-proof. It comes with the territory. Will you remember once and for all that you are My beloved child
and that I made you in My image? Then you must, as I do, let bygones be bygones. No longer hold the microscope or telescope
up to yourself. You live in a body in the relative world. Stop examining yourself. Move on. Be the ship of a prow that sails
through whatever furrows it plows through. Give the prow of the ship some leeway. Be kind and forgiving. |
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