Loneliness/Love

Loneliness/Love

Loneliness/Love

Loneliness

Once you understand the beauty of your loneliness it becomes aloneness. Then it is no longer empty, then it is no longer nothingness. Then it has a purity - it is so pure that it is formless.
Always remember the difference between aloneness and loneliness. Loneliness is like a wound. Loneliness means you are missing another person. Loneliness means you are thinking of another person constantly, you are hankering for another person constantly. The other is in your fantasy, in vour mind, in your dreams. The other is not real, it is imaginary, but it is there and because it is not real you feel lonely.
When you start feeling your aloneness, the other drops from your mind completely. It doesn't shadow your dreams any more, it doesn't touch your purity any more. You are happy with yourself, you are ecstatic with yourself, you are enjoying yourself. Now for the first time you are in tune with your being and with your non-being. You are whole.
Now you can be in love. Now love can flow. But now love will be a sharing, not an escape. Now you can go and share your being - and your non-being also. Now you can share your wholeness. Now you can allow anybody who is open to join your openness, now you can become partners in the eternal journey. This love will not be possessive, because you are ready to be alone anytime. In fact you are happy being alone and you are happy being together - you don't have to choose between the two. Both are good. Whatever the case, you feel happy. Your happiness cannot be destroyed now; another can enjoy it and share it but cannot destroy it.

Love should not be in any way possessive. It should not be exclusive, it should be inclusive. Only when love is inclusive will you know what it is. When love is exclusive, exclusive to one person, you are narrowing it down so much that you will kill it. You are destroying its infinity. You are trying to put the whole sky into a small space which cannot contain it.
One should be in love. Love should not be just a relationship, it should be a state of being. And whenever you love one, through the one you love the all. And if love has really happened you will suddenly find that you have started loving trees and birds and the sky and people. When you have fallen in love with one person, what exactly has happened? When you fall in love with one woman you have fallen in love with all women. The one woman is just a representative, the one woman is just an example of all the women that have existed in the world, that are existing in the world and that will exist in the world. That one woman is just a door to womanhood. But the woman is not only a woman, she is a human being too. So you have fallen in love with all human beings. And the woman is not only a human being, she is a being too. So you have fallen in love with all beings. Once you fall in love you will be surprised that your love energy is released to all. That is true love.
Possessive love is not true love. It is so tiny it suffocates itself and it suffocates the other person too. But this has been the case up to now - love has never been inclusive. You have been taught exclusive love. But love can be inclusive. You can love the whole world.

The Enlightened are called - Ancient Children - Deep Breathers.

The innocence of the children is ignorance,
it is not true innocence. The true innocence happens only after the second birth. The true innocence happens only after you have reached your very core through awareness; that is the second birth, that is resurrection-you are born anew...
Real innocence belongs to the Buddhas. They have lost their first childhood in knowledge and then they become aware of what they have lost. They have lost the precious, the essential for the non-essential, so they drop their knowledge. Dropping their knowledge they become innocent again. This is second innocence, second birth. In India they call such a person dwija, twice-born. He is a real brahmin because he has known the Brahma, the absolute. The absolute can be known only in innocence.
So the first, the most important thing is the innocence of the sage. It is like the innocence of the children but only like. The innocence of the children is bound to be corrupted, but the innocence of the sage cannot be corrupted anymore-he has passed through that stage. His innocence has maturity, his innocence has integrity; his innocence is earned-he deserves it. -
To Repeat -
Man's evolution is from innocence to innocence.
The first innocence is ignorant, the second innocence is
luminous. The first innocence is a kind of sleep, the second innocence is an awakening. The first innocence is a gift of God, the second innocence is man's own effort, his earning, his work upon himself. The first can be lost, the second cannot be lost. The first has to go-in the very nature of it, it cannot be eternal; but the second, once it comes, remains forever-it is eternal.
Remember, whatsoever you attain consciously, only that can you possess, only that. Whatsoever is given to you, and you receive it unconsciously, will be taken away. Only that really happens to you for which you work hard. Only that belongs to you which you create in your being. You become master of it.
The first innocence in Christian terms is called Adam. And the second innocence is called Christ.

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