JEALOUSY

               What makes you jealous? Possessiveness. Jealousy
itself is not the root. You love a woman, you love a man, and you
want to possess the person just out of fear that perhaps tomor-
row they may move with somebody else. The fear of tomorrow
destroys your today, and it is a vicious circle. If every day is de-
stroyed because of the fear of tomorrow, sooner or later the per-
son is going to look for some other partner because you are just a
pain in the neck. And when the man starts looking for another
woman, or the woman starts moving with another man, you
think your jealousy has proved right. In fact it is your jealousy
that has created the whole thing.
     So the first thing to remember is, don't be bothered about to-
morrows. Today is enough! Somebody loves you. Let this be a day
of joy a day of celebration. Be so totally in love today that your to-
tality and your love will be enough for the other person not to
move away from you. Your jealousy will push the person away;
only your love can keep him or her with you. The other's jealousy
will push you away; their love can keep you.
     Don't think of tomorrow. The moment you think of tomorrow,
your living today remains half-hearted. Just live today and forget
tomorrow; it will take its own course. And remember one thing,
that tomorrow is born out of today. If today has been such a
beauty of experience, such a blessing, why be worried about it?
     Someday the man you have loved, the woman you have loved,
may find somebody else. It is simply human to be happy-but
your woman is happy with somebody else. It does not make any
difference whether she is happy with you or happy with some-
body else, she is happy. And if you love her so much, how can you
destroy her happiness?
      A real love will be happy even if the partner feels joyous with
somebody else. In this situation-when a woman is with some-
body else, and you are still happy and you are still grateful to the
woman and you tell her, "You have absolute freedom; just be to-
tally happy and that is my happiness. With whom you are happy
   is insignificant, what is significant is your happiness." - my feel-
   ing is that she cannot remain away from you for long, she will be
   back. Who can leave such a man?
       Your jealousy destroys everything, your possessiveness de-
   stroys everything. You have to understand what you are gaining
   out of it. You are burning in the fire, and the more you become
   jealous and angry and hateful, the more you are pushing the
   other person far away from you. It is simple arithmetic that it is
   not going to help; you are destroying the very thing that you want
    to preserve. It is simply idiotic.
    Just try to understand a simple fact: human beings are human
beings. Once in a while everybody gets bored being with the same
person all the time. Be factual; don't live in fictions. Once in a
while, everybody gets fed up; that does not mean your love has
stopped, it simply means a little change is needed. It is good for
your health, it is good for your partner's health. You both need a
little holiday from each other. Why not do it consciously? "We are
feeling stuck, so what about having a week's holiday? I love you,
you love me; that is such a certainty that there is no fear."
    My own observation is that after even a day's holiday you will
fall in love with each other on a higher and deeper level, because
now you will see how much you love each other. You cannot even
see the sadness that comes naturally by living together.
    Don't possess each other. Keep the freedom intact so that you
don't interfere in each other's private world and you respect the
dignity of the other person. Once this is experienced, that once in
a while you can go on separate holidays and come back again,
there will be no need to be worried. You will be surprised that
when your woman comes back to you after living with some other
man for seven days, and you come back to your woman after liv-
ing with some other woman for seven days, you each have learned
some new things. You can have another honeymoon again. You
are new and fresh, and you have learned new tricks. And it is al-
ways good to have fresh experiences, enrichment.
    You only need human understanding, intelligence, and jeal-
ousy will disappear.


				*JEALOUSY*