It's A Jungle Out There ...

As the mother of Indigo children I remember how hard it was to help my children feel comfortable in a world they were very uncomfortable in. One of my children was bullied in school and I spent many years protecting him, ensuring his safety in school and trying to get support from the administration. I had some success, after a lot of hard work and the bullying stopped (my son also grew 6 inches in one year, which also helped). But more importantly, I taught my children that they would need to face the world and helped them with the skills that would help them navigate that jungle.

I had to find the balance between being an over-protective mother (which was easy for me to do) and letting my children know that I was there for them but I couldn't be there all of the time. They needed survival skills, such as learning to speak up for themselves, knowing when telling wasn't tattling, how to be confident, learning to pick their battles and the difference between confidence and aggression. With my Indigos I had to help them find their center so they could confidently address their problems and use me as a second line of defense. They knew they could always count on me but they had to also learn to stand up for themselves.

The most challenging aspect of having Indigo and Crystal children is to see them as capable of handling the crises in their lives (with the option for help) when they feel powerless. My first tendency was to become overprotective and go in and fight their battles for them. Which worked, as long as I was around. But I could not follow them around all day and it was the times when they needed me the most that I was not standing behind them. In these times they needed to learn to think for themselves, to stand up for their rights, to find other resources and to know when to do those things.

The world can be a jungle and while we can teach our children to navigate it, many of them will never really understand it. My Indigos do not understand why people can't just get along, why there are people who are jealous of them or who are mean and they don't like dealing with them. But they know how to and while it has taken some time, every time they use these skills they feel more confident and powerful. It is hard to not become the mother tiger for our children (and many of you are very good at that) but we have to balance our protective instincts with remembering that out of our great love for our children we can teach them to find their own power and to brave the jungle with the knowledge that they can cut their own path through it, no matter what lands in front of them, and do it successfully and with integrity so they can feel safe, be happy and live their life with confidence instead of fear.

Article Copyright ©2010 by Jennifer Hoffman. All rights reserved.

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Jennifer Hoffman is an intuitive, spiritual healer, mentor, teacher and author. She also channels the energy of the Archangel Uriel. Jennifer has helped many people through the Shift through her unique insights and counsel, facilitating their healing journey. Jennifer is the founder of www.urielheals.com, an on-line spiritual healing and growth center and dedicated to the messages and teachings of Archangel Uriel. Information about Jennifer's books, on-line seminars and services is available at her websites, or email healing@urielheals.com for information. * Enlightening Life www.enlighteninglife.com * email: Support@enlighteninglife.com *