Dear Ones,

Are you so exhausted that you just want the holiday season to be over? Or do you find yourself angry at the people you are preparing to entertain or please during the holidays? Do you find that your holiday gatherings are filled with more anger than love? Join the holiday reality club.

Perhaps you have the time, financial resources, joy and energy to fully prepare for this holiday season – most notably Christmas. We are not directing this particular blog to you. You have found your place, and by doing so, you are nurturing yourself as well as those you love.

The wayshowers / lightworkers / trail blazers we wish to address are those of you who feel as if you must perform according to expectations despite a limited budget, exhaustion, over extension of services and all of those other uncomfortable feelings you have pushed aside for decades to meet the Christmas needs of others.

Some of you love the holiday season. Again, that is perfect for you. But not everyone has the support system so glowingly portrayed in your media.

Yet, you must pretend that you care and that others care about you. Or that being alone on the most loving, family holiday  of the year is preferable to experiencing the joy of a family gathering. Or that you wish to spend time and money providing joy for those who do not care or do not reciprocate.

This year, allow yourself to explore your feelings. Stop pretending to yourself and others that you wish to be part of their holiday celebrations. Stop pretending that your gift will make someone’s life different or better. Acknowledge who you are and what you need.

It is time for you to be you in all aspects of your life – including your thoughts, feelings and actions during this holiday season. It is no longer appropriate to pretend in any aspect of your life. Acknowledge your feelings and then change your direction accordingly.

Just because someone, somewhere declared December 25 a day of love and peace does not mean that it is the correct day for you.

You have accepted that you are a unique person with unique needs. Yet, you continue to do act on “shoulds” - not your wants or needs.  Perhaps this Christmas you would feel more loving if you were home reading a book, than if you attended a family gathering. Perhaps you would be more comfortable if you did what you wanted this Christmas instead of what your friends expected you to do.

All holidays have been created by humankind. What if you feel like celebrating Christmas in July? Would that be inappropriate, silly or just eccentric? Yet, if Christmas is about love – why is one day designated as the day that such love should be shared? Why must everyone get a gift on Christmas? What if your friend or relative has a greater need in July than Christmas Day? Does that call for two gifts or no gifts? Only you can decide.

Perhaps you feel we are trying to remove the joys of Christmas. Not at all. We are merely pointing out that Christmas was established to create harmony and has evolved into shoulds and have tos.  So many that you, as usual during this season, are exhausted.

And as you are attempting to remain within third dimensional mainstream society, you are incorporating energy bursts internally that are shifting you into a fourth, fifth, sixth or seventh dimensional being.

You are no longer who you were last year or even three months ago. Yet, you continue to force yourself to do the “right” thing.  Christmas is not for the faint of heart. You are expected to give of your time, money and energy and to do so with an open heart and a smile. Yet, you are a different person. Those in your immediate circle may not even have noticed the difference –  for it is an internal shift that is rapidly moving your away from shoulds into nurturing yourself and others who reciprocate your love.

It is time to be you. If that means you thoroughly enjoy the activities of the season, so be it. And if that means you no longer wish to play the role assigned to you by your society, family or friends, so be it.

You are no longer part of a herd. You are a unique individual with unique needs and interests. Start acting on your unique interests and you will have given yourself and the Universes the most wonderful and loving gift of all – you. That is all we ask. Discover yourself  and act on that discovery. So be it. Amen.