Who Cares 4-U?

Everyone in our care zone is someone we have a soul contract or karmic obligation with, or have made a vow or promise to in one or more lifetimes. Depending on the nature of our interaction, we can feel responsible for them or believe we have done something we must atone for. In our desire to fulfill these obligations we put all of our energy towards them and forget that we also have an obligation to ourselves, to end this cycle and clear our karma. Without that understanding we are in an endless cycle of trying to care for others and ignore our own needs.

All of our lifetimes are cycles of healing potential but unless we move beyond recognizing our obligation to also heal ourselves, which is shown to us by the healing demands others place on us through their words or actions, our focus is on trying to fix whatever we believe is broken or missing in their lives. We know, from the energy we share, that we may have contributed to their powerlessness or helplessness in some way and we want to fix them. But they are also responsible for clearing their own energy and taking an active role in resolving their own problems.

As we are attending to others' needs, we are trying to gain their forgiveness for our role in their pain and forget that they participated in this process as well. As the saying goes, 'it takes two to tango.' Whatever transpired between us was as much their responsibility as ours, sometimes more. Any relationship in which we feel we must take care of someone contains clues to our own healing and release. What do we need to do for ourselves in this situation to complete it, instead of engaging in cycles of endless giving that will never give us what we need?

We have to remind ourselves that encoded within every relationship is the information we need for our own healing. Fulfilling our contracts is not dependent on getting another's approval, we can make the choice to end karmic cycles and let others be responsible for their own actions. We never get extra points for suffering and by paying attention to our own needs we ensure that we get the care we need so our energy goes where it can best serve our own growth and healing. This week, as you think about someone you feel responsible for and ask what promises you are trying to fulfill and remember that you do not need their permission or approval to forgive and release yourself from the obligations you have created with them.

Jennifer Hoffman is an intuitive, spiritual healer, mentor, teacher and author. She also channels the energy of the Archangel Uriel. Jennifer has helped many people through the Shift through her unique insights and counsel, facilitating their healing journey. Jennifer is the founder of www.urielheals.com, an on-line spiritual healing and growth center and dedicated to the messages and teachings of Archangel Uriel. Information about Jennifer's books, on-line seminars and services is available at her websites, or email healing@urielheals.com for information. *


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