Eggs in Gelatin, a Dog and Disaster
by Jennifer Hoffman
Have you ever been in a situation that you thought was really funny, and maybe it was,
but the person it was happening to didn't think it was funny and in fact, found it to be very painful? While you see the situation
from your perspective and just see the humor, for them it's personal and means something entirely different. I remember when
I was about twelve my mother had spent several days preparing food for a dinner my parents were hosting for some important
guests. She spent hours on one of the appetizers, eggs in gelatin, and was so proud of it. A few hours before the dinner we
set the table and got the appetizers ready to serve. Then my mother went to get dressed.
Now we had a sneaky dog who loved people food and you can imagine what happened next. He got into the kitchen and only ate
one thing, the dish my mother had worked so hard on. When she walked into the kitchen to make a final check of the appetizers
we heard her scream, the dog ran out of the kitchen and we all ran in. There was her beautiful masterpiece with big bites
in it. My mother was furious and ready to get rid of the dog but that would not bring the dish back, she would have to replace
it with something else. We didn't dare laugh because she was so angry but it was very funny. And we were secretly glad the
dog at that particular dish because it was eggs in gelatin, which we didn't like.
But it wasn't about the dog eating the food, this meant other things to my mother and
she saw it as a failure. When we talk about it today she always says something about 'that darned dog' and still doesn't think
it's funny because it to her it was about how life doesn't work out, being let down and disappointed and how her success was
affected by things that were out of her control. And whenever she did her best, something happened to ruin it. In this case
it was our dog but this was not the first time that this kind of situation had happened to her.
Whenever I'm in a situation where I don't know whether to laugh or be sympathetic, I try
to see what it means to the other person because it's often highly personal and there are meanings that I am not aware of.
They can't see the humor in a situation which reminds them that success is always one step beyond them and no matter how they
try, they don't succeed. For them, these 'funny' incidents are reasons to be sad and disappointed and when we laugh they are
angry and think we are being inconsiderate. What can we do to help them feel powerful? Trying to show them a different perspective
might help but if not, we can acknowledge their disappointment without feeling the obligation to fix it, let them express
their anger and disappointment and then help them see a more powerful alternative for the next time. And we can laugh about
it in private.
Article Copyright ©2011 by Jennifer Hoffman. All rights reserved.
About the author
Jennifer Hoffman is an intuitive, spiritual healer, mentor, teacher and author.
She also channels the energy of the Archangel Uriel. Jennifer has helped many people through the Shift through her unique
insights and counsel, facilitating their healing journey. Jennifer is the founder of www.urielheals.com, an on-line spiritual healing and growth center and dedicated to the messages and teachings of Archangel
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