RELATIONSHIPS-4

Your web browser is NOT capable of playing Music (MIDI).

<<< BE AUTHENTIC >>>

Truthfulness means authenticity-to be true, not to be false, not to use
masks. Whatsoever is your real face, show it at whatever the cost.

Remember, that doesnít mean that you have to unmask others; if they
are happy with their lies it is for them to decide. Donít go and unmask
anybody, because this is how people think-they say they have to be
truthful, authentic; they mean they have to go and make everybody
nude, because "why are you hiding your body? These clothes are not
needed." No. Please remember: be truthful to yourself. You are not
needed to reform anybody else in the world. If you can grow yourself,
thatís enough. Donít be a reformer and donít try to teach others, and
donít try to change others. If you change, thatís enough of a message.

To be authentic means to remain true to your own being. How to remain
true? Three things have to be remembered. One, never listen to
anybody, what they tell you to be. Always listen to your inner voice,
what you would like to be; otherwise your whole life will be wasted. Your
mother wants you to be an engineer, your father wants you to be a
doctor, and you want to be a poet. What to do? Of course the mother is
right because it is more economical, more financially helpful, to be an
engineer. The father is also right; to be a doctor is a good commodity in
the market, it has a market value. A poet? Have you gone mad? Are you
crazy? Poets are people who are cursed. Nobody wants them. There is
no need for them; the world can exist without poetry-there will be no
trouble just because there is no poetry. The world cannot exist without
engineers; the world needs engineers. If you are needed, you are
valuable. If you are not needed you donít carry any value.

But if you want to be a poet, be a poet. You may be a beggar-good.
You may not become very rich out of it, but donít worry about
itóbecause otherwise you may become a great engineer, and you may
earn much money but you will never have any fulfillment. You will always
hanker; your inner being will hanker to be a poet.

I have heard that one great scientist, a surgeon who was awarded a
Nobel Prize, was asked, "When the Nobel Prize was awarded to you, you
didnít look very happy. What is the matter?" He said, "I always wanted
to be a dancer. I never wanted to be a surgeon in the first place, and
now not only have I become a surgeon, I have become a very successful
surgeon and this is a burden. I wanted to be just a dancer, and I remain
a lousy dancer-that is my pain, anguish. Whenever I see somebody
dancing, I feel so miserable, in such hell. What will I do with this Nobel
Prize? It canít become a dance to me, it canít give me a dance."

Remember, be true to your inner voice. It may lead you into danger, then
go in danger, but remain true to the inner voice. Then there is a
possibility that one day you will come to a state where you can dance
with inner fulfillment. Always look: the first thing is your being. Donít
allow others to manipulate and control you-and they are many;
everybody is ready to control you, everybody is ready to change you,
everybody is ready to give you a direction you have not asked for.
Everybody is giving you a guide for your life. The guide exists within you,
you carry the blueprint.

To be authentic means to be true to oneself. It is a very, very
dangerous phenomenon; rare people can do that. But whenever people
do it, they achieve. They achieve such beauty, such grace, such
contentment that you cannot imagine. The reason everybody looks so
frustrated is that nobody has listened to his own voice. You wanted to
marry a girl, but the girl was a Mohammedan and you are a Hindu
brahmin, your parents wouldnít allow it. The society wouldnít accept it, it
was dangerous. The girl was poor and you are rich. So you married a rich
woman, Hindu, brahmin by caste, accepted by everybody but not by
your heart. So now you live an ugly life. Now you go to the
prostitute-but even prostitutes wonít help you; you have prostituted
your whole life. You wasted your whole life.

Always listen to the inner voice, and donít listen to anything else. There
are a thousand and one are temptations around you, because many
people are peddling their things. It is a supermarket, the world, and
everybody in it is interested in selling his thing to you. Everybody is a
salesman. If you listen to too many salesmen you will become mad. Donít
listen to anybody, just close your eyes and listen to the inner voice.
That is what meditation is all about, to listen to the inner voice. This is
the first thing.

Then the second thing-if you have done the first thing only then the
second becomes possible-never wear a mask. If you are angry, be
angry. It is risky, but donít smile, because that is being untrue. But you
have been taught that when you are angry, smile. Then your smile
becomes false, a mask-just an exercise of the lips and nothing else. The
heart full of anger, poison, and the lips smiling; you become a false
phenomenon.

Then the other thing also happens: when you want to smile, you cannot
smile. Your whole mechanism is topsy-turvy because when you wanted
to be angry you werenít, when you wanted to hate you didnít. Now you
want to love; suddenly you find that the mechanism doesnít function.
Now you want to smile; you have to force it. Really your heart is full of
smile and you want to laugh out loud, but you cannot laugh. Something
chokes in the heart, something chokes in the throat. The smile doesnít
come, or even if it comes it is a very pale and dead smile. It doesnít
make you happy, you donít bubble up with it. It is not a radiance around
you.

When you want to be angry, be angry. Nothing is wrong in being angry.
If you want to laugh, laugh. Nothing is wrong in laughing loudly. By and
by you will see that your whole system is functioning. When it functions,
really, it has a hum around it. Just like a car, when everything is going
well, hums-the driver who loves the car knows that now everything is
functioning well, there is an organic unity; the mechanism is functioning
well.

You can see it-whenever a personís mechanism is functioning well you
can hear the hum around him. He walks but his step has a dance in it. He
talks but his words carry a subtle poetry in them. He looks at you and he
really looks; it is not just lukewarm, it is really warm. When he touches
you he really touches you; you can feel his energy moving into your
body, a current of life being transferred, because his mechanism is
functioning well....





Relationships are to be found only through the HEART - not through
the image and APPEARANCE of things, but to be found through the true ESSENCE of things - through the HEART
and into the ESSENCE of LOVE - it is the only way for soul mates to recognize themselves more fully -
MEDITATION is necessary to find your true center, to find the true
ESSENCE of things ---
--------------------
You're not just an age,
Or an hourly wage.
You're more than your e-mail address.

You're not just some size,
Or the shape of your thighs,
Or the make of the car
you possess.

You're not just your PIN,
Or the shade of your skin,
Or the place you were born,
or the date.

You're not your IQ,
Or the width of your shoe,
Your zip code, your height,
or your weight.

You can't be defined
By your zodiac sign,
Or the lines in the palm
of your hand.

It's not who you know
Or the money you owe,
Your blood type or cereal brand.

You're much too complex
For just race, creed or sex,
You're wonderfully
multi-dimensional.

You're one-of-a-kind
With a fabulous mind
And a spirit
that's quite unconventional!

That makes you a treasure
Which cannot be measured
With numbers or checks
on a chart.

You're truly tremendous,
Amazing, stupendous!
Believe it with all of your heart!